I have been going to Industry for many years with my friends. I moved out of the city and when I was visiting this past weekend, I decided to go back with a friend who was also in town.
I am a mid-30's woman and I do not flatter myself that I do not LOOK mid-30's. I am never carded anymore when going into bars, buying alcohol, etc. because I look like a somewhat older woman. That is just fact.
The other fact is that I have, never in my life, owned a fake ID.
When I arrived (completely sober, for context-- I did not have one drink that evening yet), the bouncer was yelling at someone, but I ignored it and both my friend and I produced our IDs. My ID is a state driver's license and I just flew across the country with it, so it is good enough for the TSA.
The bouncer's ID machine for some reason said "possible fake ID detected." I honestly almost laughed when he said it-- I thought he was joking, again, because I look older and am clearly not under 21.
When I realized he was serious, I said, "This is my driver's license, it isn't something I can fake." He started literally YELLING at me that I was lying, that I could tell him it was real all I wanted but it wasn't, and other nonsense about my lies/my trying to give him a fake ID.
He was becoming increasingly belligerent and honestly it was scaring me. He was a large man and as a woman, having a man screaming in my face felt threatening.
I said fine, we will leave, and please give me my ID back. He started yelling that it was his right to confiscate my fake ID, and he physically withheld my ID from me, refusing to give it back.
I almost started crying, because I was visiting from out of state, and without my ID, it would be unsafe for me to drive the nearly four hours home in case I was pulled over for some reason. Not to mention, I had no way to get my ID back since I was supposed to be leaving town the next morning. I tried giving him my school ID from my graduate program, because he said my credit cards, health insurance card, or any of the other myriad amounts of cards with my name on it weren't valid enough for him to give me my ID back.
Perhaps because I was getting emotional, he finally did give me my ID back saying I "wouldn't be so lucky next time" and I needed to get my ID checked because there was something wrong with it.
Again, I just flew across country and my ID was good enough for the TSA. Sorry it wasn't good enough for Industry. I was about to go and spend a good amount of money and have a good time with my friend, but I will NEVER, ever go back to this place. There are plenty of gay bars up and down 9th ave and there's no reason to spend money at a place that will treat you like total trash, threaten you, and be unnecessarily belligerent and make you feel unsafe just because they're on some kind of power trip.